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Leading to Easter, I have looked for new or renewed insight in the death and resurrection of Jesus. As I read, my eyes and thoughts keep lingering on the word and action FORGIVE. Not forgive if…., or forgive when…., just forgive.

What a nightmare! Jesus was betrayed and disowned by some of his closest followers, friends, brothers. He then endured some of the most inhumane abuse. He was mocked, taunted, stripped, beaten….nailed to a cross to die while a murderer was set free. The mocking and taunting continued as he hung in pain. YET Jesus forgave.

 Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing.” Luke 23:34 NLT

Still, the verbal abuse continued. Two criminals were also crucified that day; one on each side of Jesus. One of those criminals joined in with the jeering. The other criminal reprimanded him, and said they were getting what they deserved, but that Jesus had done nothing wrong.

 But the other criminal protested, ‘Don’t you fear God even when you have been sentenced to die?  We deserve to die for our crimes, but this man hasn’t done anything wrong.’ Then he said, ‘Jesus, remember me when you come into your Kingdom.’

And Jesus replied, ‘I assure you, today you will be with me in paradise.'” Luke 23:40-43 NLT

Jesus forgave. This is the example we have of forgiveness. Jesus will forgive us, and He wants us to forgive others. In Matthew 7:1-2, Jesus said, “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged.  For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.” NLT   God holds us to the same standards we hold for others.

Do I forgive readily? Do I put conditions on my forgiveness? God forgives without condition. I should recognize my need to forgive others with the humility of having been forgiven for so much myself. I need to forgive whether the offender is remorseful, apologizes, or asks for forgiveness.

When we harbor unforgiveness, in the long run it hurts us more than the offender. We let it simmer and fester causing bitterness, resentment, and hate to build within us. It makes us miserable, and soon we make those around us miserable as well. In Hebrews, we are warned to watch out, and not let bitterness take root in our lives because it will cause trouble to many. (see Heb. 12:15)

Now, there are two things I want you to ponder. First, do you need to ask Jesus to forgive you? We all are sinners, and need His forgiveness. Ask Him to forgive you today. He will forgive you. Second, are you holding on to a grudge? Do you need to forgive someone? Don’t wait; forgive now!

Rewind or Pause?

If given a choice, would you choose a rewind button or a pause button for your life? Wouldn’t that be a luxury to be able to rewind and have a do-over, or pause and enjoy the moment a while longer?

Pondering rewind or pause, I initially thought I would choose a pause button because life seems pretty good right now.

  • I have some great relationships with friends and family.
  • Although my body is aging, I am healthy.
  • I have a husband that loves me.
  • I have a job that I enjoy.
  • I am being challenged in my relationship with God.

On the other hand, a rewind button might be best because there have been times I wished I could back up and try again.

  • when hurtful words came out of my mouth
  • when I didn’t take the time to be the friend someone needed
  • when I was so self-absorbed in my own hurt and disappointment that I didn’t notice how it was affecting those around me
  • when I was too busy to read one more book to my pleading child, or pick up the phone just to say “I’m thinking of you and praying for you today.”
  • when I tried to do things my way instead of listening to God’s leading
  • when I didn’t share the saving grace of Jesus with one who was drowning in sin and darkness

In reality, I know I can neither pause nor rewind my life. However, I CAN learn from my mistakes and be grateful for abundant blessings.

 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. Colossians 3:12-14 NLT

Leave me your comment: Would you choose a rewind or pause button?