Archive | May 2012

I Do

It’s “I Do” season. From beach weddings to barn weddings, gardens to wheat fields, chapel weddings  to cathedral weddings,  each will be different, yet all have the same goal. After saying “I Do” the couple will be pronounced Mr. and Mrs.

Many weddings  I have attended in the past few years have used 1 Corinthians 13 as the wedding passage. Though this passage on love is great and does give a great challenge to the bride and groom, I miss hearing the passage written specifically for husbands and wives in Ephesians 5:21-33.  In verse 33, God requires the husband to love his wife, but the wife is required to respect her husband. I can’t imagine a woman marrying a man she did not love, but many times after being married awhile the wife loses respect for her husband. I have seen this over and over, a wife being rude, disrespectful and humiliating her husband in public. Once this kind of behavior begins, the relationship will only continue to spiral downward. Loss of respect will become loss of love.

Proverbs 31:10 asks “A wife of noble character, who can find?”, and then it continues with the model. It says, “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” (Prov. 31:11.12)  This passage continues with many more characteristics for the wife of noble character, but maybe we should start by bringing our husbands “good, not harm”.

This might be a good time to do a self-examination. If you’ve shown disrespect or have a disrespectful attitude for your husband, confess it to God. Ask him to show you how to respect your husband the way He wants you to. We cannot change our husbands; we can only change ourselves!

Young Bride, I encourage you to observe a Seasoned Bride who is still happily married.  You will not find perfection, but I bet you will find a woman who shows respect to her husband.

Seasoned Bride, I encourage you to find a Young Bride to be an example and mentor to. By sharing from your personal experiences, the twists and turns of your marriage, and how God has changed you, you will be an encouragement to the Young Bride.

It’s time to pack for Niece’s Beach Wedding. I can’t wait to witness her “I Dos”!

Please leave a comment…How has a Seasoned Bride encouraged you?

It’s Reunion Time!

It’s reunion time! A time for memories both remembering and making new. It can be fun reminiscing yester-year, but it can also be embarrassing when certain stories resurface. Many people use the phrase “Back in the good ol’ days” in their conversations. Sometimes I wonder what was so good about them?

My high school reunion is fast approaching, and there are classmates I have not seen since our graduation.  Thirty-some years have come and gone! Will I recognize them? Will they recognize me? I am not the fat girl I was at graduation, and many of my classmates are probably  not the same size they were.

Yes, our outward appearance  has changed, but more importantly we have each changed dramatically from the inside out. The journey we have been traveling since graduation has transformed each of us.  Some classmates have had great success, others heart breaking tragedies and a few have passed on to eternity.  We are not the teen who marched out our graduation ceremony.

Our lives are similar to wine and cheese. As they age, they become more fragrant and complex; they get better. One difference for us is that being good is not enough in light of eternity.  Without Jesus as Lord and Savior, it does not matter how good we are!

Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14:6 (NIV)

My ambition for this reunion is to get acquainted with these older adults who were once my childhood friends and classmates.  I look forward to hearing about their life journey, and  how they have grown to the person they are today. I also want to put out of my mind the negative memories of some individuals and with Paul and Timothy in Philippians 1:6 remember that…

“He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Mom’s Dancing in the Rain

“Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass,

It’s about dancing in the rain.” Vivian Greene

I’ve learned so much through the years from my Mom; I could write a book!   Many of the things have helped make me the person I am today.

  • When I went through a stage of self-doubt she helped me see my strengths and God given gifts.
  • Mom taught me the importance of true beauty; a beauty that comes from within.
  • She taught me to go to God FIRST in every situation and to claim His promises.

I continue to learn from Mom. In the past several years as she has endured chronic nerve pain,  she’s been dancing in the rain. Through this time, I have seen her:

  • Question, but not doubt God.
  • Continue to face each sunrise rather than succumb to the gloom and despair that would be so easy to give in to.
  • Hold on to HOPE – hope for healing, for perseverance, and the HOPE that is found only in Jesus.

It was from Mom that I first learned to think, to feel, to imagine and to believe. Now she’s showing me what it looks like to press on in times of adversity and suffering, to dance in the rain.

(Thanks, Mom! I love you!!)

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;

but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Psalm 31:30

Modern Day Good Samaritan

Are you familiar with the story of the Good Samaritan? (Luke 10) It’s the one where a guy was ambushed along the road in route  to Jericho.  He was robbed, beaten and left half dead on the side of the road.  The story tells of three other men traveling the same road.  The first two, as they came upon the injured man, saw him and went around passing on the other side of the road.

Have you ever seen someone fall in public?  What did you do: pretend you didn’t see; walk away laughing; watch to see if someone would help the person; or go immediately and offer assistance?

Back to our story… A third man, who was a Samaritan, came along and stopped to assist the injured man.  After bandaging the wounds, the Samaritan took the man to an inn and took care of him.

Now let me tell you a modern day Good Samaritan story.

Last weekend was the annual Oklahoma City Memorial Marathon and other races. According to one report it was estimated that about 27,000 people participated in these races.  Some were serious runners with specific time goals they hoped to achieve. Many of the half marathon runners  hoped to come in under the 2 hour mark, and Mr. J was one of them. His goal was actually to finish under 1 hour 50 minutes. (A half marathon is 13.1 miles.)  At the 10th mile mark, Mr. J realized he not only would reach his goal, but he was on pace to complete the race in 1 hour 48 minutes.

As Mr. J continued to push himself, the unexpected happened. A runner collapsed in front of him.  Although many ran past looking at the downed runner, Mr. J stopped and stayed with the runner until medics arrived.  He was more concerned for this unknown competitor than he was in reaching his time goal.

I have heard Mr. J challenge students over and over to “do the right thing” and to “treat others like you want to be treated.”  Saturday, he put those words to action.  Most people have not heard this detail because he did not stop his race to help someone else for praise; he was just “doing the right thing.”

Mr. J is a Modern Day Good Samaritan!

By the way, although Mr. J was stopped for several minutes and did not reach his goal, he still managed to come in under 2 hours with a finish time of 1 hour 59 minutes! Congratulations and thanks for your example, Mr. J.

5 Months and Counting

How can it be May already!? Time flies when you are being blessed. I’ve been on this Joy Dare; counting 1000 gifts in 2012 for 5 months now. My notebook is filling quickly, and I am seeing blessings all around me. Sometimes my tunnel vision and a not-so-good day can really put a damper on my outlook on life. However, 2012 and this challenge are changing my perspective. By looking specifically and intentionally, even on the worst day gifts of joy and blessings can be found. Slow down and look closely you may be surprised at the blessings you’ve been over looking.

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Won’t you join me this month hunting for God’s gifts, His goodness, His glory? To help you get started here is the link for the May Joy Dare.

Give thanks to the LORD for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds. Psalm 107:8